Christian dating and boundaries
In most books on the issue, authors usually turn the question around.
They tell their audience they shouldn’t be thinking about how close they can get to “the line” but rather they should think about how far they can get from it.
God designed sex and sexual arousal to be amazing and enjoyed with only one other person in the context of marriage.
Sex is designed to be the pinnacle of intimacy and connection with our spouse.
For example, spending time alone in your room late at night with the door shut is probably not the best idea.
Invite your Christian brothers into the boundaries and standards you have set in your relationship so that they can encourage you and keep you accountable. I saw one dating couple interacting before going into a social event.
Physical contact is meant to express affection, not to sexually arouse either you or your partner. Guard your heart and your partner’s heart from lust.
That is perfectly natural if it is a serious, exclusive relationship but quite inappropriate if it’s not.In James , he says “So whoever knows the right thing to do and fails to do it, for him it is sin.” You must communicate your thoughts and standards to each other.When you rubbed her elbow, it began to sexually excite her, who knew?Here’s a good rule of thumb to start with: if the swimsuit covers it, don’t touch it unless you’re married. We’re told to treat women as sisters with absolute purity in 1 Timothy 5:2. Also, as much as you may like or love your girlfriend, until you’re married, there’s no telling whether or not she will end up being your spouse or someone else's.
Additionally, think about the locations and times you should avoid spending together.They should be rather intuitive, which always makes for a good standard, but we’ll spell out some principles to avoid legal problems should someone use this standard to defend the owning and operating of a Christian brothel.