Validating commending and celebrating accomplishments


07-Jul-2019 09:23

Saying, "Good job," when you mean it or, "Boy, you really worked hard on that paper," tells children that, as parents, you recognize the value of their hard work and efforts, Donahue says.It also tells them that you know the difference between when they work hard at something and when it comes easy. Praise children for their effort and hard work, not for their inherent talents.We had enough reps closing deals that we couldn’t realistically gather to applaud each one.And we opened a new office across the country, which made it logistically difficult (to say the least) to get everyone together to watch a new deal get gonged. Gonging every deal was out of the question, but stopping deal celebrations all together seemed even less enticing."Somehow, parents have come to believe that by praising their kids they improve their self-esteem," Paul Donahue, Ph D, founder and director of Child Development Associates, says."Though well-intentioned, putting kids on a pedestal at an early age can actually hinder their growth." Too much praise can backfire, it seems, and, when given in a way that's insincere, make kids afraid to try new things or take a risk for fear of not being able to stay on top where their parent's praise has put them.It would start with a slow clap from the sales pit that steadily gained speed as members from other departments trickled into “The Square” to learn the details of the new deal.

"There's an underlying message that the child has to get his parent's approval all the time and constantly look to the parent for validation." Still, don't go too far in the other direction.For the first few years of Insight Squared, this was the way deals were celebrated.